Wisdom at 25!

 I was a studious kid, brought up with a lot of moral values akin to a typical middle class family & I carry forward the values with pride. Adulting in the books of a millennial is very different from what we see now. The first time I stepped out of my comfort zone of being with my family was when I was 19 years old for my Masters degree. Not very far away or in a strange land- I ended up in Kerala where I could converse fluently in the local dialect. Can't really call this an uprooting but this was my first experience away from my family. Those two years did give me a lot of life experiences which I otherwise would never have had. I was also blessed with a wonderful circle of friends who literally took care of me. I was one of the very few lucky ones who was campus recruited right after my course and I landed in Bangalore. I had no idea of the place but my only condition to move to Bangalore was that my parents should join me. Fast forward to few years, my parents had to move ...

 Yet another Netflix series that caught my attention recently- Adolescence. It is based on the horrendous stabbing incidents in UK, that left a lasting impression on Stephen Graham who co-created the show with Jack Thorne. Stephen himself is part of the show playing the role of the father to the lead/ accused in this case- Jamie Miller. While there has been a lot of uproar that the show simply refused to truly represent the race of the individual behind the stabbing, I would rather want us to focus on what the show is all about.  This is a mini series of 4 episodes which are an hour long each. Each episode is beyond brilliant and every single character amazingly well put together. It talks about a lot of things that today's generation goes through in their adolescence. I had to read about what the Andrew Tate, 80-20 rules are. Asides the evident generation gap to understand the language of Gen Z, Gen Alpha there is more to it.  As parents, many live in a world of delusion...

 With my little one, not so little anymore we finally decided it was time for us to explore and travel more with her. Having restricted myself to not travel beyond 2 hours at a stretch since I found it extremely difficult to keep my little one engaged, I started having a lot of anxiety wondering how I was to manage her for a 10 hours plus flight journey! I prayed to all Gods possible for two things. One- to keep me healthy since I need all the energy to match with little A and Two- To give me Tons of Patience. Both were answered luckily. It was an added advantage that my husband was now in the UK for over a year and hence we kind of knew our itinerary. His task during the one year was to visit all possible places and finalise what works for little A and Big V (Me). The Husband did a commendable job in finalising the places. The HP fan in me wanted to visit Scotland but we also knew the highlands were out of question. But we decided Edinburgh will be added to the list and that was p...

My LinkedIn profile has a lot of connection requests from people I hardly know of not because I am an influencer or anything but because of the title tag. I am a HR professional.  Hold your horses if you think that is my work since that is what I am supposed to do - AKA- Talent hunting.  Well, I work in a Profession that is highly misunderstood not just by the people around me but also by the ones who themselves are a HR Professional. Believe me when I say this. Recently, I had a whole lot of HR folks sharing forward messages on International HR day (yeah, there is a day for it apparently). It read- "HR the unofficial Psychologist, event planner, Peacemaker, lawyer and Teacher" and many from the HR world happily posting them, making videos on what they are! Sadly- none of these is what a HR does. I feel sorry for the ones who felt this is all what HR does and for just making our profession equal to the one who ensures there is a 'Rangoli' for Diwali.  Let me break it ...

My social media handle of X (formerly Twitter) was abuzz with a new Netflix series titled Baby Reindeer. It is gore, raw and not for the weak hearted from what I read and it sure intrigued me. You sure need a lot of heart to watch this series which happens to be a True story too. It's about a female stalker in her forties and the main lead- a guy in his twenties, who himself has had a tormenting past. As the episodes unfold you see why he encourages the stalker despite knowing very well she is a ex-convict, convicted for stalking It got me thinking about Maslows Hierarchy of needs.  The main character is okay with NIL self respect, submitting himself to his abuser because of the hate he has for himself aka low self esteem. The series subtly touches upon the background of the stalker- her past, in a crisp voice note that she shares about how her parents were always fighting. The impact it has on childhood is nothing short of trauma.  I happened to read a post recently of a kid ...

 I am now married for 5 years which needs a special mention. By the time you reach the 5 years mark, atleast once you have thought about why you got married in the first place, importantly, questioning your choice. If this hasn't happened to you yet, well, you really do not know your better half yet. What keeps the relationship going though is the Love that you still share. I had read about someone sharing on Reddit that their secret to happy marriage was this- Both husband and the wife listed down the things they really like about each other and saved it in a letter box. When things went southwards, all they had to do was read through to remind them how important they were for each other. This works only when both of them are in it. I am a chatter box and can write pages and my husband being the opposite, refuses to read even if my blog exceeds certain word limits. However, he is my Yin to the Yang.  Recently, the two of us managed to watch a movie together on OTT. Of course ...