Love is Love!

 I am now married for 5 years which needs a special mention. By the time you reach the 5 years mark, atleast once you have thought about why you got married in the first place, importantly, questioning your choice. If this hasn't happened to you yet, well, you really do not know your better half yet. What keeps the relationship going though is the Love that you still share. I had read about someone sharing on Reddit that their secret to happy marriage was this- Both husband and the wife listed down the things they really like about each other and saved it in a letter box. When things went southwards, all they had to do was read through to remind them how important they were for each other. This works only when both of them are in it. I am a chatter box and can write pages and my husband being the opposite, refuses to read even if my blog exceeds certain word limits. However, he is my Yin to the Yang. 

Recently, the two of us managed to watch a movie together on OTT. Of course with two breaks and in two days, and it happens when you have an almost t(w)oddler at home! It was a movie titled "Love Today" and the plot was about the main characters exchanging their mobile phones for a day. Okay, so what is the big deal? At one point of time me and my husband used the same series of phone and there have been times that he has taken my phone to work and vice versa. Did we miss each others phone- yes but did we sit and read through or explore everything that was there on each others phone? No! We don't hesitate to use whichever mobile is right next to us. 

I couldn't accept this blockbuster of a movie for a very simple reason. If there is no basic trust in a relationship then you shouldn't be in one. Which got me thinking of some of the characters of men and women who are sulking in a marriage. In the world of Shraddha's & Aftab's here are few things to keep in mind if you are thinking of getting married.

- If you think you will be taken care by the other half- financially, physically, mentally - please do a favour for yourself and stay away from getting married. The sole reason for being married should never be having someone take care of you aka- the phenomena of Parents taking care to now my spouse taking care.  Please give yourself time to understand what Adulting is all about. This is definitely not specific to any Gender.

- If you are keen on your other half having certain looks please do keep in mind- we are not robots. Psst- remember Prince William in his younger days to now?

-If you just want to be mamma's boy or daddy's little princess- please get out of the bubble before you do get married since you will have to prioritise a lot. 

-If you think you are superior than the other because you are a certain Gender, you need to find a time machine and go back to 17th century maybe. 

If you spend 30 years of your whole life just with your parents, do keep in mind the next 20/30/40/50 or more is going to be with your other half. Sure there will be your offspring but who will be part of your life for some 20 years or less. Love is Love. But never end up in a relationship that is of no good for you. Marriage needs oodles of patience, compromise, understanding, lots of communication most important of all, zero ego but lots of mutual respect for each other. It takes a lot to build this sanctum, but is sure worth it if you do find the one. Remember, it's a two way street.

Vive, 

Me Myself :)